THREE WAYS TO PRESERVE YOUR HAPPINESS

Three things that give me happiness: Knowing God, Self-acceptance and Good People; but the greatest of all which am very sure everybody must know is “Knowing God”.

Since I have received Jesus as my personal savior and learn how to have relationship with God, I realize that when situations become difficult and stressful and I read the word of God, am comforted. The word of God, for that matter God is my greatest source of happiness, because He never disappoint me before. The Psalmist says “Your words, they comfort me.” In fact Psalm 121: 5 says “The Lord is your keeper; the Lord is your shade at your right hand. And with Him verse 6 says: “The sun shall not strike you by day, nor the moon by night.” Finally verse 8 says: The Lord small preserve you’re going out and coming in from this time forth, and even forevermore. Thus, if this is the God we serve, then, He should and must be our greatest source of happiness. One thing God has help me to know is that His words are true; “yes and amen”. His words are not fake as some other minds will want to make us believe. Always let the word of God be your first source of inspiration.

Second thing I noted is self-acceptance; knowing who you are and being able to accept and appreciate yourself at all times. One thing I will not denier anywhere is the fact that “everybody needs somebody”. But, if you don’t learn to know and accept yourself when people disappoint you or run you down, you will lose

your self-happiness. Look, if you do not learn to accept and appreciate yourself, when you have disappointed relationship, it will take much of your happiness away. Or when people call your look or appearance to question, you will lose your self-happiness. This is one of my secrets “I like taking pictures” and I admire myself so much. In fact am very photogenic and this is my plus; hope you will understand. And when taking pictures I always try to pose well to take my best looks.

In addition, I have a mental picture of myself and my age brackets. So even, if I don’t look at myself in a mirror, I know my looks. My look and age are in my head and I don’t allow anybody to determine them for me. Don’t get me wrong, I know things people hold against me as my purported defect: “my long head.” But my friend, that is not my problem. And do you know how am able to overcome people’s meanness about my head? “My long head has given me enough storage capacity for knowledge and wisdom." Thus, my ‘head form’ is an assert rather than a liability. Hahaha! I know you are laughing. To accept and be happy with yourself, learn to know your strengths and weaknesses. Appreciate your personality strengths and learn to create fun about the purported personality defects people use against you.

Thirdly, as I noted in the second phase of the discussion “everybody needs somebody” that is why nobody is an island. Nevertheless, one thing I learn about life is that most people look forward to draw their happiness from others. In fact that is why “takers are more than givers.” People who want others to make them happy are more than people who are ready to make others happy. That is why most people don’t care making others sad or breaking other's heart in other to be happy with themselves. However, one thing I discover in life is that good people treat others as they desire to be treated, it is even biblical. Note: a good man will feel sorry for breaking a lady’s heart and a good lady will feel sorry disappointing a man. On the other hand, a good friend will learn to know what makes you happy and try to help you build up and maintain your happiness, but self-centered people will only try to satisfy themselves to your detriment. This is the problem of many

relationships which I also had had my shares and call it my dividend. Hahaha!

Hence, to be happy with a person, you must find out what makes him/her happy. Identify with and help others find their happiness as much as possible. Look for other ways to make them happy and create the right environment for each of you to find your forms of human happiness. For me honestly “I believe nobody can find what I call ‘relationship happiness’ by being selfish”. What am saying is: you cannot be truly happy in yourself by making others sad. That is why, I also believe in resolving difference amicably. Thus, from relationship point of view, I always try to make people happy through my own words and action. If I can’t do something or fulfill a promise I don’t like explaining it off, but I rather encourage. When am wrong I apologies. And one great phrase I learn is “AM SORRY”; it serves me from conflict. To say am sorry does not kill you, it rather rekindles damaged or broken relationship.

Above all, I learn to be kind with my words. KIND WORDS are not expensive, they are freest gift you can give people to make them happy. Action speaks louder than words, that is true, but kind words speak deeper than action. I hope you know of ‘fake gifts and ‘crocodile tears.’ Kind words are deep, and good people are consistent with kind words. Learn to make others happy and they will give you the happiness you deserve. Remember: “every good thing deserve the other, and kind words draw kind words.” Finally, make people happy and they will complement your happiness. Very important; never forget your family and good friends, they complement your happy disposition to a great deal.

In sum, never lose the God factor in your life; your greatest happiness comes from your creator, and He knows what is best for you. Secondly find your unique ways to make yourself happy and make the effort to defray your purported self-weaknesses. Love God, happy yourself and let what people do to “happy you” become complementary. #KeepHopeAlive #KeepVisionInMotion God is faithful. Don’t worry bee happy! Hahaha!

Moses A. Katamani 
Copyright@ December, 2016